So today I posted my Morning Motivation post on Twitter and when I got up I was oh so excited to see that I got a YouTube response! Yup, that’s sarcasm. Because you know when someone takes the time to make a YouTube reply to something you said on Twitter that it’s not because they think it was great. 🙂 And why not add something else to have to try and deal with today! I’ve got time <insert wild psychotic laughter here>. So here we go…someone going by the name wiccanhart1 on Twitter shared this on the YouTubes…
I watched the video as much as I could; it kept cutting out toward the end and frankly I got the point…blah blah blah…you’re being a new age twit…blah blah blah…you don’t know what you’re talking about…blah. This is one of the things that makes Twitter so fun sometimes. This person admits to knowing nothing about me and if he did we probably wouldn’t be here. I don’t have the time to make a video reply, I barely have time to be writing this, but nether Twitter or a comment on YouTube will get my thoughts across (you know how wordy I can get) so here we are.
Ok, so my post:
If you want love & acceptance from the people around you, you must have love & acceptance for them. Real love and compassion goes both ways.
Alright, now, I think we can all agree that the example that even our video poster admits is extreme is really kind of ridiculous. If you’ve read my views on hexing and cursing or my thoughts on black magick, you know I’m 150% in favor of defending yourself at all costs and with whatever tools you have at your disposal. You have to take care of you first and foremost in any situation.
But the issue of love and compassion, having love for those who you want to love you back, is a very complicated thing and it’s not something that ever could be fully expressed in 140 characters on Twitter, and I think most people with their heads on straight get that. So let’s talk about this.
What about people who are miserable pricks? Well, as I always say, some people just can’t be changed. In fact last night on Facebook one of the evening posts that I put up said…
When someone hurts you remember that you can’t force other people to change. The only person that has true control about how the events make you feel is you. Choose how you need to deal with the situation. You may need to change your boundaries and how the relationship functions or it could be that you need to end it altogether. In the end you have to consciously decide how you’ll respond. Their change is on them.
And 122 people seemed to “like” that idea. And it’s true. You can’t change everyone, no matter how much you love them, how much you forgive them, and how much you do to get them to like you. Some people are just miserable, unhappy, negative people that the more you try and show them love the most miserable they become and eventually the more that makes you bitter and angry. The worst part is that in the process of trying so hard to get these people to love us, as we get upset about their rejection, we end up not expressing how unhappy we are because we’re trying to hard to be positive that we essentially poison ourselves.
Here’s the point of what today’s Twitter post was trying to say…
Love and accept people for who they are and they will love and accept you back. When you come from a place of love and compassion with other people generally this is how they treat you back. Part of the issue for some people is they don’t really know what it means to be truly loving and accepting so they don’t see this sort of return from others. And yes, there are going to be miserable assholes in your life that you’re going to be far better off just walking away from than trying to break your back bending over backwards for to try and make them happy.
It’s all about balance and remembering what you send out is what you get back…send out love, get love. Yup, I can hear some people saying “That’s not true!!!” Yeah, not all the time because you can’t force people to accept YOUR love for them because some people just don’t want it! The point is to try…it’s better to live in a positive way, giving love to those around you, then to sit around being miserable wanting everyone that doesn’t like or doesn’t agree with you to die in a hole or wishing for them to have a shitty life. That energy invades you too!
Am I being all “new agey fluffy bunny” with my tweet. NO! Just sharing a positive thought that, for many people, can be a point of inspiring change in their lives. It’s not an “affirmation of nonsense” if you know how to really work with it and what you’re doing. Shit, it’s not actually an affirmation…lol. It’s just a statement and reminder that you get what you give.
So take it or leave it, your mileage will naturally vary because everyone’s life experience is different. Yes, I have had my share of negative people to deal with in my 36 years and I have found that either most times you need to just expunge them from your live and move on unless you want their crappy live to invade yours. But better to send them off wishing for them to get better and get over themselves than to hope they get hit by a truck crossing the street to get coffee.
I had a really interesting day, some amazing public and private feedback from all this, all reaffirming my thoughts and feelings about how silly that video and it’s presenter are. Then today I was watching a movie with my husband, one I’m sure some people will be surprised I’ve never seen before, “As Good As It Gets”. And this quote just again reminded me of this whole thing and felt like an affirmation…
Some have great stories, pretty stories that take place at lakes with boats and friends and noodle salad. Just no one in this car. But, a lot of people, that’s their story. Good times, noodle salad. What makes it so hard is not that you had it bad, but that you’re that pissed that so many others had it good.
And there you go…you learn to move past the “toxic” people, bless them, and be on your way…otherwise you’re giving them the opportunity to live rent free inside your head forever.