To Banish or Not to Banish...

Since I've already posted something today and I'm here, let's look at a question the came in from a reader.  And it's a good one too because it's one of those magical issues that isn't nearly as simple as it looks or maybe should be.  Banishing.  What's up?  Banishing should be something pretty simple; you don't want someone or something in your life so you find a way to send it away.  Well, sometimes it's not that simple.  It's especially not that simple if you want to work to banish a person from someone else's life for them.  Here's what Cearúilín Mac Gearailt wrote in and asked...

Hello, i have a simple question and can't seem to find an answer in the books and research i have done. I am going to be casting a banishing spell. But it a spell to banish some one from another person not myself to much. Should i banish them from this person, or from my life or both. They are adversely affecting my life in a very negative way even though i do not have direct contact with them. Just need to know how the spell needs to be worded.Thank YouCearúilín Mac Gearailt

There are a few things to consider with this.  For the sake of making this discussion a little easier I'm going to call the person you want to banish Sally and the other person involved Jill.  Do you have Jill completely on board with your plans to banish Sally from her life?  Is she going to be part of the magical work?  If not she should be, even if it means she's just sitting in the circle doing nothing; she should be there since this involves her more than you.  What is your problem with Sally?  Does your problem with Sally in any way involve or reflect on Jill?Ideally Jill wants you to do this to help her and she wants you to banish Sally for good.  But also, if Jill is serious about wanting you to do this, she'll be involved in the work too, even if it just means that she's going to be there observing.  Her issues aren't your issues, no matter how much you care for her and want her to be happy.  If you have an issue with Sally then you are in the right position to banish Sally from YOUR life for YOUR purpose, but really you don't have the right or place to banish Sally from Jill's life, especially without her permission.  Even with her permission it can be a bit of a tricky situation.With banishing spells remember that you're sending someone away, most likely for good.  And if they do end up coming back to you the chances are that things are going to be ugly.  So be completely sure you want to send this person away.  Banishings are not spells to do half-ass or half-hearted.  Be positive you want this person gone.Also, for the best effect, start your spell as close to the waning moon as you can.  By the time the moon is new Sally should be gone for good.  If she's not, prepare to do your spell again at the start of the next waning moon.  Sometimes banishings need to be worked a few times to take full effect, so be patient.But to really answer your question...No, you shouldn't banish this person from your friend's life.  If you have reasons to send them out of your life, that's one thing, but your friend needs to be responsible for their own situation.  If your friend doesn't do magic and specifically asks for your help, then that's different.  In that case I would do it but I would do it with them.  It's not at all difficult to involve someone in a spell or ritual who isn't a practitioner, especially if they are the person it concerns.  If your friend wont participate I would be a little hesitant to do the work; they may not be 100% sure that this is what they want.The wording of the spell itself is not as important as the intent.  I can't word the spell for you, you need to do this yourself.  The thing to keep in mind is that your words have extreme power, especially in an emotionally and intention charged ritual.  So be sure that you're aware of what you're saying.  I don't know the specifics of your situation so I can't give you any real pointers there but just know that your words are going to have a lot of power.  Also the way your planning to deliver the spell will have some weight to the words you'll use.