Happy Monday magick makers! Today we’re going to look at the idea of letting go. This is a subject I’ve written about a bit in the past. It’s one of those things that many people come to witches, healers, and readers looking for help with.
Letting go after a break-up, the loss of a job, and illness, a death in the family; at some point, we all have to learn to do it and to embrace what the process wants to teach us.
Just to give you some other reading material if you need it, here are a few links to other articles on letting go that I’ve written in the past.
Letting go after a break-up
Why letting go isn’t an option but a necessity
A personal post with an art exercise for letting go
The basic gist of letting go is that until you do it you can’t receive something different or new. The thing that you’re holding on to, on an energetic level, is telling the Universe, “Hey, see this energy over here? I’m not ready to be without out. So if you wouldn’t mind, please send more of this.”
If you’ve ever had a bad breakup or something happens that causes what you see as a run of bad luck and you find yourself mulling it over and analyze it over and over, you probably also notice that more people or events keep showing up that have a similar vibe or that reinforce the negative ideas you’re nursing.
If you want to stop that and break the cycle you have to let it go.
But that doesn’t mean you need to forget it happened or act like it hasn’t impacted you. What you do want to do is learn the lesson it has taught you and hold on to THAT. That wisdom, as you mull it over and analyze it, sends a signal to the Universe that says, “I appreciate this hard lesson and I’ve learned something valuable from it. Please help me learn more by sending me things that resonate with this lesson.”
That doesn’t mean that you’re going to keep having breakups to reinforce the lesson from the breakup, at least if that’s not what you’re holding on to. If the breakup lesson was that you need to find people who value you more and show it because you see yourself as worthy of these kinds of relationships, you’ll find you attract more of those.
But where can we use magick for this?
Today I have a simple spell that you can use as a way to acknowledge the lesson and let go of the teacher (aka the breakup, the loss, the ending).
You’ll Need:
✅ A white candle with a holder
✅ A fireproof container
✅ A square of paper
✅ A red pen or marker
✅ A black pen or marker
✅ One of these essential oils (your choice): Lavender, Rose, Rosemary, Sage
Take your oil and dress your candle, rubbing the oil into the candle from the bottom up toward the top. This motion signifies the process of release.
Put the candle in the holder and light it. Take a few moments to gaze on the candle flame, letting the light start to relax you, bringing you into a bit of a trance state. Take as long as you need here. Being relaxed and open is key for this kind of work.
When you’re feeling relaxed, begin to think about what needs to be released. Don’t get too focused on the details and you don’t need to pull up too much of its energy. Just bring it into your mind, feeling it enough to know its real.
As you feel this, ask yourself what lesson you have learned or could take away from this. This should be something that will change you in a positive way. How can you grow from this experience? How is this making you a better person?
On the piece of paper in the center using the black pen, write what the thing is that you need to let go of. Be clear and specific, don’t get wordy. An example is “My romantic relationship with Tom.” (If you and Tom ended your romantic relationship but you two genuinely want to be friends, you don’t want to say “My relationship with Tom” because that will mean intending to release him completely.) Another is “The job at Sephora that I didn’t get.” (Or you could say “Getting a job at Sephora” if you don’t plan to ever try to get a job there again, but if you want to try for a different position or try again at another time you want to be specific that it’s this job you didn’t get.)
After you’ve written that down use the red pen to draw a heart around it. Love this ending, love the lesson, love the experience. Show gratitude for what you have gained.
Finally, take your red pen and, with love and gratitude, write inside the heart over the things you wrote in black what it is that you gained. Maybe you gained a better sense of self-respect or personal value. Maybe you discovered that you are more skilled or knowledgeable at something than you thought you were. Maybe you just discovered that you are able to let go of things that hurt you.
Once you’ve completed this writing, take your oil and place a little tab on each corner and in the center.
Get your fireproof container and place it in front of you near your candle (or wherever it will be safest to use). Hold your piece of paper and say the following three times:
Never will I be hurt this way again,
But the lessons and wisdom of it remain.
Hurt and loss surrounds me no more
I let it all go so I can free my soul.
Take the paper and light it on fire from the candle. Hold it for as long as is safe, feeling the power of letting this go and absorbing the lessons and blessings. Place it carefully in your container and allow it to burn to ash.
Let your candle burn all the way down. Once it is finished take the ashes outside and blow half of them in the direction of the west, the direction of endings, and the other half in the direction of the east, the direction of new beginnings.
