I think we can all relate to friends and family who have a bad habit of passing on their sage wisdom, or at least what they perceive as sage wisdom, when it’s really unwanted.  We confide in people who then feel obligated to pass on some sort of advice.  Then we have those who get in the habit of giving advice to us all the time, even when we don’t need or want it.  While this might not be the worst thing in the world when it comes to personal problems how does it measure up when it comes to spiritual advice and what can you do to make these well-meaning friends stop?  Our question today from Tina begs these answers.

I need to know how to block my personal “psychic friends” from interfering with my own free will & personal path. I get unwanted advice and directives & acknowledging this to them directly hasn’t helped. I need them to stop.

~ Tina

Thanks for your question, Tina!  It’s a tricky one, for sure.

I think the first thing to keep in mind is that even though these friends of yours may be involved in the psychic and spiritual arts, they are still human.  As are you.  Don’t feel that you have to make special considerations for them because of this thing that you may have in common.  I know it isn’t going to sound very “magickal” but really, in a situation like this mundane common sense is going to be the best way to go.  You need to put your foot down and tell them that you don’t need their help or advice when you really don’t.  When it’s something that is a constant intrusion in your life then you may want to consider whether or not you want to keep these people in your life.  Let’s break this down a little bit.

First, you mention that these people are interfering with your free will.  Nobody can interfere with your free will unless you give them the room to do so and you don’t push back.  We give people power in our lives so take a moment to objectively consider how much power you have given these “friends” in your life.  You have the ability to take your power back by putting space between yourself and these people.  Don’t take their calls, don’t reply to emails, etc.  Tell them that you need some space for a little while.  If you have to see them for whatever reason, keep the conversations light.  Don’t share personal information or personal stories that they could intrude on.  If they just start to dispense with the advice either stop them and tell them you don’t wish to discuss it, or if you have to, physically walk away.  Another thing that you might want to consider is to shield yourself energetically when you have to be around them, or when you want to be around them.

I also feel it’s important to mention here that while you feel it may be an invasion of your free will for them to impose their thoughts and ideas on you it’s important not to fall into any reactions that might impose on their free will as well.

While you say you’ve acknowledged your desire for them to stop directly, have you done it in a firm way?  Have you done it in a way that makes them know you mean business?  And are you still giving them room to interfere after you’ve told them this?  Remember that some people need to be told things about 50 times before they get the hint.

Not knowing your friends and know knowing if they fall into what I call the “overwhelming love and light people” they may be super resistant to being told no when they think they’re doing something good.  Some people that are involved in the psychic and spiritual community (especially in the New Age community) are constantly trying to find ways to share insight and help to anyone and everyone around them.  In my experience this advice and these conversations are often that person’s attempt to try and impress other people with their skills and abilities and to show their value as a source of wisdom to other people.   But if you don’t need it and don’t want it there is nothing that says you have to take it.

This is a really hard situation, I know.  I’ve been there myself a handful of times and often I’ve found myself in a position where I had to change the relationship from a personal to professional one.  It’s a matter of boundaries and some people don’t understand or even have boundaries and, frankly, that happens a lot in this community.  You have to be able to create boundaries where they don’t exist and then stand firm on them.  Unfortunately sometimes this means having to cut some people out of your life when they don’t have the respect for you to hold their tongue.

I know you’ve probably been down most of these roads already with this, but I wouldn’t recommend doing anything like spells in this situation other than possibly a spell on yourself for protection if you feel it’s necessary.  This is one one of those cases where I feel that dealing with the mundane is best.  Hopefully some of this will be helpful, and again, remember that you have the ultimate power of what happens in this situation.