We’re getting really close to the start of Talk To Your Angles, a wonderful 5 week online course I’m teaching that helps people learn more about angels, how to connect with them for healing and spiritual growth, as well as how to do mediumship in order to channel the messages of the angels and our loved ones on the other side. The angels are accessible to everyone, not only people of a specific faith, as it often misunderstood.  This is truly one of my favorite classes to teach because it’s just so much fun and so healing for a lot of people.  But I got a really interesting question from a reader named Celeste who wanted to know how someone who’s adopted connects with loved ones on the other side when they likely don’t know their family of origin.  Let’s check that out!

[blockquote author=”Celeste”]Jess…I have a question that relates to your angel work that you’re doing.  I am fascinated by what you described when it comes to how you see and teach angels.  I hope at some point I can take your angel class in the future!   But I have a problem that I thought you could help with that may also be an issue for others when it comes to understanding angels and loved ones on the other side.

I’m adopted.  I was adopted when I was 3 but I lived in foster care before that and have no clue about my family of birth.  I’m perfectly fine with it, I’ve never known anything other than the loving family that picked me to be part of their clan.  I am grateful every day for it because they gave me an amazing life.  But now I’m in my early 40s with a family of my own I do sometimes wonder about my ancestry.

How does that work?  Is my connection to the other side through the family I’ve never known or is it with the family that raised me?  I consider my adoptive family my real family, so it isn’t about that at all, but about wanting to know who I can connect with on the other side and if I ask for someone to come to me, like if I call on my grandmother, am I calling on my grandmother from my birth family or my adoptive family?[/blockquote]

 

This is a great question, Celeste, and you’re right, there are many people out there that will benefit from this discussion!

 

When it comes to angels and guides I tend to think that those who are adopted are extra special because they have both spirits of their birth family and their adoptive family with them.  But before I explain that let me clarify two things real quick.

 

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Your ancestors and departed loved ones, regardless of which of your families they are from, are not actually angels.  Angels are celestial beings of pure light {energetically speaking} and love who have never incarnated on earth.  The one exception to this – which I don’t always agree with but it’s a theory so here it is – is when an angel is put into human form for a very brief period to help prevent a disaster or tragedy.  Otherwise all true angels are purely divine beings of light and love with no ego or human experience.

 

Our loved ones that cross over are simply spirits on the other side.  Some can become spirit guides and some of them may even be spirit guides for you at some point.  Regardless of what jobs or roles they take on once moving into the next life  they are willing to connect with you and they will hear you when you call on them.

 

 

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When someone crosses over into the spirit world they take with them their personality from their life on earth.  That means if your mother was really over bearing in life she’s likely still going to be a bit of a pushy lady in spirit.  If your brother was really sweet and loving and had a penchent for partying, he’s still going to be drawn to those kinds of gatherings from spirit.

 

This is important to remember because this will have an impact on how they connect with you from spirit and even who you should call on for guidance.  Your uncle who was a mechanic isn’t suddenly going to be a great financial adviser from heaven.  He’ll be great at helping you find the right parts to fix your car but not at helping you balance your budget so you can get a new one.

 

Unfortunately Jim Morrison had it wrong when he penned the line “Death makes angels of us all and gives us wings where we had shoulders as smooth as ravens claws”.  So just keep this in mind.

 
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Being adopted makes you extra lucky in the spirit guide and angel department.  Both from my training and personal experience I have come to understand that those who are adopted have two primary spirit guides – one of them is from your family of birth.  It doesn’t matter if you don’t know the person or anything about your birth family, they are still with you.  They come to you when you leave your birth family and are adopted and then stay with you throughout your life specifically to keep a connection through the worlds between you and your birth line.

 

While working with a client a few years ago I had the chance to meet one of these types of guides.  She was adopted but had never told me that.  It wasn’t until I met these two different spirit guides who came through for her together that I discovered this about her.  The guide that was from her birth family explained that his job was to stay with her so part of her could always access her birth ancestry at any time should she need or desire to.  It did come across that he was sort of  second in command.  She had another spirit guide who was from her adoptive family that came through as well and was her primary guide.

 

So you have at least one spirit guide with you from your birth family with you to help you access that line of spirits if you want to make that connection.  Otherwise they just sit on the sidelines for you.

 

Keep in mind that spirit guides aren’t necessarily family members, they can be anyone who has been assigned to help you through something or who has an affinity to you in some way; so knowing who your primary spirit guide is would be a whole other story.

 

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If you’d like to connect with your spirit guide from your birth family to make a connection it’s quite a simple process.

 

Get into sacred space or a place where you feel safe and protected where you can work undisturbed for a while.

Begin to relax and shift into a meditative state.  Breathe deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth letting go of any tension from the day as well as any tension or nervousness about making this spirit connection.

See yourself surrounded by a bright white light that cascades down from above you.  See it like a waterfall that is running down from overhead.  As the light falls over you it enters through your crown chakra and runs through you, lighting up all your chakras and clearing them, filling you with bright, radiant, protective energy.

Continue to breathe deeply and fall into the rhythm of your breath.  Let it just naturally flow in and out.

Begin to gather your intention to connect with the spirit guide from your birth family.  Feel what it might feel like to have that connection, to know more about the spirits and energy of the family that brought you into the world.  Let go of any feelings of resentment that you may have for them not keeping you and hold gratitude in your heart for your adoptive family who raised you.

Take your time doing this…this is a big part of opening this line of communication and letting your birth family spirit guide know that you willingly want to connect and you desire to know more.

When you’re ready say the following affirmative prayer, either aloud or silently:

Thank you, angels, for connecting me to my spirit guide from my birth family.  Thank you for revealing the name of this guide to me so that I may call on them any time I wish.

Then sit quietly, going back to your breath, and know that the angels are connecting you with your guide.

As you sit in meditation you may receive the name of your guide or you may get an impression about your guide – are they  male or female, who were they in the family, and what can they do for you.  If you don’t receive any clear information, this doesn’t mean they aren’t there!  You may just need to work at this a little bit and you may need to do this meditation a few times.

When you’re ready to come back, offer a simple thank you and begin to feel the floor or seat beneath you, the air in the room against your skin, and the beat of your heart.  Feel yourself fully come back into your physical body.  Take a few final deep breaths and then open your eyes slowly when you’re ready.

Journal your experience and anything you received in the meditation right away so that you don’t forget anything.  When you want to connect with this guide in order to learn more about your birth family, simply repeat the set up for this meditation and then rather than calling for the angels offer an affirmative prayer to your guide.  For example:

Thank you, Mary, spirit guide from my family of birth, for being with me now to share insights into my family history. 

When you feel your guide has come to you, you can begin to converse with them, ask questions, and so on.

 

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You asked a really great question about knowing who you’re connecting to if you call in “grandma”, for example.  It’s always best to use specific names when calling to your loved ones on the other side.  Their names are their energy signature and it carries with them into the spirit world.

 

Each person’s first name, despite there being many Sue’s for example, has a specific vibration that asks as a key to their Akashic Record, the record of their soul.  Say their full first name that was given to them at birth and you will always connect to them.  If you don’t know their first name from birth – if you only know a shortened name, nickname, or even if they went by their middle name – you can still use it.  Hold a mental picture of them and hold the intention of connecting to that person specifically.  It may time a little extra time and some trial and error but you’ll make your connection.

 

You are alway surround by spirits of those who love you, no matter what family they come from.  Trust that if you call for their help and guidance, they will be there.  They’re all there for the same reason – to love you!